“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.”
I far too often find myself wishing away the time. Wishing I was older, till my next paycheck, till I am done with school, a job etc. It never ends. My father told me of a story about when he was younger an old man heard him say he wishes he was older and the old man replied, “Don’t wish your life away, before you know it you wont have a life to wish anymore.”
Here is my challenge for you…
1) Catch yourself every time you find yourself wishing you were somewhere else.
2) Live in the moment! Really enjoy and experience the Good times AND the Bad times…and when life throws you a curve ball or rear its ugly head…find the positive in it. There is always a postive
3) Look around and realize all the things that are miracles and appreciate them
Basically, what I want you to do is stop and smell the roses.
My dream is that everyone in this world can feel happiness. That they can realize their self-worth, conquer there self and fulfill their potential. My dream is that this book will inspire, motivate and create a social movement bringing together complete strangers and creating bonds that will never be broken. My dream is that families become stronger, friendships become tighter and relationships last forever. My dream is that people open their minds, hearts and souls to the idea of change and accept it with its bringing’s. My dream is that you don’t waste your time on this planet and live every second as if it were on purpose.
Routine. Repetitive. Redundant. Does this sound like your day? Does it feel like the movie Groundhogs Day in your own life? Could you complete your day with your eyes closed? Well, I have been there before. As humans, we look for the path of least resistance. We do not like confrontation, anything hard and constantly want the best of both worlds. So, it makes sense that we often find ourselves doing the same thing day in and day out. We don’t want a curve ball thrown our way and for heavens sake its the end of the world when something comes out of left field and surprises us. Well, I have a challenge for you!
For the next week….
1. Take a new route to work every day
2. Instead of packing a lunch or eating at McDonalds, take a long lunch at least one day and spoil yourself
3. Don’t go home and watch tv and eat a frozen dinner, go out to a Happy Hour and I dare you to introduce yourself to one new person
4. Do something every day that makes you feel awkward. Whether its standing up in front of your co-workers and making a joke or singing Karaoke…feel awkward
5. Go out of your way to help someone. Buy a stranger coffee!
6. Take 5 minutes a day to day dream about your biggest desires
7. On the last day, write in a journal or a notepad or on your computer about all the experiences you had. Share with us!
I do not care how far-fetched, silly, out of this world your dream is…It CAN happen. I am saddened at the fact that every day I see 828 elementary students and I ask them, “What is your dream?” and 80% of the responses are “I don’t know.” What happened to our imagination? Why aren’t schools piggy-backing on the energy of a students dreams to motivate learning? What is even worse is that by the time these students hit high school and college, that 80% turns into 99%. We live in a time where everything is at our fingertips and any small desire of a dream is washed away with any hiccup or bump in the road. Well, I have a suggestion to help make your dream a reality!
You may think you have nothing in your life, or you may be blessed and have anything you desire. Either way, you can still benefit from this solution. I have the dream to become a motivational speaker and inspire K-12 and college students believe in themselves. Instead of letting my dream remain a dream I have began to take action. Instead of waiting for an opportunity to fall into my lap, I have used the world around me to create my dream. Now, I may not be getting bookings but I am ready for it when I do! I have written my speeches, I have purchased a presentation board and drew out different activities on its pages. I have even written letters to myself pretending I am someone else who has benefited from my presentation. I have 5 letters ranging from experiences and benefits. One is from a single mother who gave up on the possibility of an education, another from a high school student who is adopted and doesn’t have any self-worth.
So, if you want to be a singer, make a fake microphone and go through the motions as if you were a famous singer on tour. Make your schedule of cities you want to tour to. If you want to be a pilot begin surrounding yourself and making your life look like you imagine it to be.
Every great accomplishment started as a thought. With a little hope it became a dream. With a little faith, the dream became within reach. With a little love, it became a reality.
I really struggle with patience. I am a very busy guy and want to jump into things and get it done. I think I am supposed to learn a lesson in patience as my life right now is forcing me to stay put when all instincts are telling me to close my eyes and run full speed ahead. Living on impulses can be fun and spontaneous but hardly the best decision. I googled “how to learn patience” and this site came up with the best answers. If you are anything like me I encourage you to take a few notes 🙂
Figure Out What Makes You Impatient
Try to figure out why you are in such a hurry. We tend to lose our patience when we’re multitasking or when we’re on a tight schedule, expecting the day to pass within (what it seems like…) only a few short minutes of busyness and chaos. If you’re stretching yourself too thin, you should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to an overwhelming situation. Try to spread out your tasks so that you’re doing only one thing at a time, without leaving yourself twiddling your thumbs in eagerness of something to busy yourself with. Delegateresponsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.
Pinpoint the triggers that often influence you to lose your patience. Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if you feel anxious, worried, or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. To reduce the frequency of impatience, it helps to be aware of it. Which events, people, phrases or circumstances always seem to influence you lose your cool? Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration. At the core of most triggers is a reality that we have a hard time accepting. What are those realities for you?
Look for patterns. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationshipor circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. Figure that out, and you can then think logically about the problem issue and decide whether or not your impatience is warranted or helpful. It usually isn’t, but when it is you can then figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it.
Write it Down
Keep a journal. For one to two weeks, whenever you get that rushed feeling and the sense of impatience, write down whatever it is that feeling is associated with (Example: July 1 – astronomy class). Make sure that you take notes consistently and consecutively each time the feeling occurs. You will notice that you are more aware of (and subsequently more prepared for) the feeling of impatience. You will also be able to observe the sense of impatience objectively and which events give rise to it. You may come to the conclusion that circumstances surrounding the feeling are not causing you angst – the feeling itself is. In these ways, you will be able to better control impatience when it besets you.
Overcome bouts of impatience. In the long run, developing patience requires a change in your attitude about life, but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient. Take a few deep breaths and just try to clear your mind. Concentrate on breathingand you’ll be able to get your bearings.
Let go if you can’t do anything about the impatience trigger. If there isn’t anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done, yes, but it’s possible, and it’s the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you – waiting to hear back after a job interview, for instance – but you should be able to alleviate impatience that’s caused by issues of less consequence (i.e. waiting in line at the grocery store). If you make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, you’ll gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.
See the Big Picture
Remind yourself that things take time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don’t like to waste time. However, some things just can’t be rushed. Think about your happiest memories. Chances are, they were instances when your patience paid off, like when you worked steadily toward a goal that wasn’t immediately gratifying, or took a little extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one. Would you have those memories if you had been impatient? Probably not. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you’re impatient, you’re more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don’t come right away.
Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.
Always remember that you will eventually get what you want. (This requires maturity and patience to understand and accept!) If you work hard at something, this may be the truth, but most of the time you have to be patient to get what you want. For others, this may come as easy, but the only thing that matters is that you know how to occupy yourself, even in the dead of times. Just remember, patience is a mental skill that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your life.
Always have a positive outlook in life. Being always positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting
something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
– Frederick Koenig
Watch this video of Susan Boyle as she tried out at the age of 47 on Britain’s Got Talent. I love this because it is proof that it is never too late to follow your dreams. Sometimes life is about timing. It may just come a little later than what you originally hope for.
I once heard someone tell me that I am a compilation of the 5 people I hang out with the most. Whether you like it or not, you become who you hang out with. I cannot tell you how many times I have had millionaires tell me, “If you want to be rich, hang out with rich people.” You cannot help but be influenced slightly by those you are around. We are a very impressionable species that is always looking for the path of least resistance. It is easier to follow someone rather than make your own way. So, I challenge you to reconsider who your friends are and start making your own path. You will be surprised at the people you meet and who become your friends and who begins to drift away. It doesn’t mean your old friends are bad, but it is important to be able to grow and change and sometimes that means leaving some friends behind who don’t have the same goals. You are only doing a disservice to yourself if you don’t allow yourself to be challenged and prevent yourself from developing more positive relationships. Again, life is all about relationships. It’s your choice who you decide to let into your life which has a direct impact on who you become.