We have all, at some point in our life, been afraid of something. Whether it is the boogeyman, a new job, a move, or coming face-to-face with your fear of heights, we have all experienced the undesirable feelings of fear. A feeling that speeds through every inch of your body and consumes your thoughts and alters your reality. As human nature is to go along the path of least resistance, it is no surprise that we often run away from our fears.
But what really happens when we run away? We do not grow stronger, we miss out on opportunities for growth and strength and most of all, fun. Growing up I often confused fear for excitement and I missed out on a lot of opportunities. So, here is my challenge to help you determine if something is actually dangerous and shouldn’t be attempted or if you should confirm the feeling is actually excitement and not fear…
1) Ask yourself if this activity will physically harm you body, mind or soul?
2) Are you afraid of an actual, physical thing, or a thought or idea? (scared of the thought of dying by jumping out of a plane, or are you scared of the plane)
3) What is the worst that could happen if you go through with it, and if you don’t go through with it?
4) Take control of your thoughts and change your attitude about it. Rather than being fearful, go out and dominate your fear better than anyone else. I was going to jump out of an airplane once and I was having a meltdown and a psychologist told me to change my fear into thoughts of being the best jumper out of airplanes…EVER! And it worked! My fears melted away as I was determined to jump out of that airplane like it was something I had done a million times.
Attitude plays such a big role in our lives. It is the largest factor in determining whether or not you will live a life of happiness and excitement, or fear and sadness. The next time you are feeling fearful, ask yourself those 3 questions and most importantly…change your attitude about it.
Yeah, it may seem strange to fail. But we need failure in order to achieve success. There has never been a successful person who has never failed at least once. The important part here is that this means we have to take action. When I say to chase your dreams, go out and do it. Set a plan. Sit down and set goals that are measurable, achieveable and tangible. Make a plan to achieve those goals and a timeline. Now, once you have that, go out and you will notice that every choice you make is geared around achieving those goals. Your goals become magnets and you start working towards them. The closer you get, the stronger the momentum and the faster you will see results. Be disciplined in your steps or else you will not see results. Most people see failure as an awful, horrible thing. BUT IT ISN”T! Failure allows you to stop, learn, re-strategize and re-launch. You will become more efficient and effective in achieving your goals. My football coaches always told me, if you are going to mess up, mess up 110%. If you are going to fail, fail 110%. Worse case scenario, you will learn and find a new way to succeed.