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“Do not confuse activity…

“Do not confuse activity with productivity”

I have always struggled with having continual motivation to reach a dream. It wasn’t until I was sitting on the toilet doing some really deep thinking and it hit me…

I realized that its not that I need to stop having HUGE dreams…I just have to have smaller goals between that help me reach that goal. Instead of moving your feet rapidly for a few weeks to get nowhere in comparison to your big dream, make smaller goals where you are accomplishing things, learning and feeling as though you are getting closer to your dream.

Along the way you will run into failure and it is much easier to pick yourself up after a small failure on your journey to a smaller goal. However, it is much easier to give up when you hit a few stumbles when your dream seems unreachable.

Creating momentum is something that will help catipult you to achieving whatever you want. The sense of euphoria of completing a goal and moving onto something bigger and better that brings your BIG goal closer and closer is addicting and very powerful. I always imagine that I have a ball of energy and as I succeed at different things I am depositing currency into the ball of positivity. I feel it growing and growing and growing…Even though I can’t see it, I can feel it and it is a great mental reminder to keep working harder.

Along the way you will also learn from your mistakes, meet the right people, build your network and instead of being inefficient and running off of excitement that won’t last, you are learning the proper way to do it and are more likely to be successful.

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“Learning how to concent…

“Learning how to concentrate on the good, rather than dwell on the bad can transform the world around you.” – Brenden Martin

I have noticed that it is very easy to get caught up when things don’t go your way. Once something happens and you tumble, its almost certain that something else goes bad and you trip again. Challenging the way your typically think and process things is difficult. But, if you can concentrate on the good around you rather than dwelling on what is going wrong, you will see a whole new world open around you.

Success or failure?

If we can change the way we think about success and failure, I think we could solve sadness and depression for many in the world. In American society we are taught success is about being rich, famous, huge house and cool cars. We are made to believe it is a destination rather than a journey. We are made to believe that failure is eternal doom, rather than an opportunity to grow and adapt.

I have spoken about failure before so you should all understand how important it is to fail in life. Failure shapes you as a person, gets rid of a big ego, and makes people achieve things in their life they may have never thought possible.

Success is a journey, the road you take, trials and tribulations, ups and downs… You are successful if you do not give up. Thus, the only way you can truly fail is if you stop trying. You may not succeed on the first attempt at something, but if you learn from your mistakes, reflect on your actions and adapt your abilities and continue to try, strive and attempt to accomplish your goal…then you are successful!

TASK: Challenge what you think about “success” and “failure” Change your perception, change your world!

Things to remember

Sales Motivation video that goes over many lessons in life!

 

This is a great video with amazing quotes to inspire and motivate. Enjoy!

Fear and Excitement

We have all, at some point in our life, been afraid of something. Whether it is the boogeyman, a new job, a move, or coming face-to-face with your fear of heights, we have all experienced the undesirable feelings of fear. A feeling that speeds through every inch of your body and consumes your thoughts and alters your reality. As human nature is to go along the path of least resistance, it is no surprise that we often run away from our fears.

But what really happens when we run away? We do not grow stronger, we miss out on opportunities for growth and strength and most of all, fun. Growing up I often confused fear for excitement and I missed out on a lot of opportunities. So, here is my challenge to help you determine if something is actually dangerous and shouldn’t be attempted or if you should confirm the feeling is actually excitement and not fear…

1) Ask yourself if  this activity will physically harm you body, mind or soul?

2) Are you afraid of an actual, physical thing, or a thought or idea? (scared of the thought of dying by jumping out of a plane, or are you scared of the plane)

3) What is the worst that could happen if you go through with it, and if you don’t go through with it?

4) Take control of your thoughts and change your attitude about it. Rather than being fearful, go out and dominate your fear better than anyone else. I was going to jump out of an airplane once and I was having a meltdown and a psychologist told me to change my fear into thoughts of being the best jumper out of airplanes…EVER! And it worked! My fears melted away as I was determined to jump out of that airplane like it was something I had done a million times.

Attitude plays such a big role in our lives. It is the largest factor in determining whether or not you will live a life of happiness and excitement, or fear and sadness. The next time you are feeling fearful, ask yourself those 3 questions and most importantly…change your attitude about it.

Lessons from Benjamin

Benjamin Franklin was a man of action. Over his lifetime, his curiosity and passion fueled a diverse range of interests. He was a writer (often using a pseudonym), publisher, diplomat, inventor and one of the Founding Fathers of the United States.

His inventions included the lightning rod, bifocals and the Franklin stove. Franklin was responsible for establishing the first public library, organizing fire fighters in Philadelphia, was one of the early supporters of mutual insurance and crossed the Atlantic eight times. Self-development was a constant endeavor throughout his incredible life.

Benjamin Franklin was clearly a man who knew how to get things done.

Here are 14 action-inducing lessons from him:

    • Less Talk, More Action

      “Well done is better than well said.”
      Talk is cheap. Talking about a project won’t get it completed. We all know people who constantly talk about the things they are going to do but rarely ever take that first step. Eventually people begin to question their credibility. Taking action and seeing the task through to completion is the only way to get the job done.

    • Don’t Procrastinate

      “Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.”
      This is probably one of the first quotes I remember hearing as a teenager. With an impressive list of achievements to his credit, Benjamin Franklin was not a man hung up on procrastination. He was a man with clear measurable goals who worked hard to turn his vision into reality. What are you putting off till tomorrow that could make a difference in your life today?

    • Be Prepared

      “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
      You need a plan to accomplish your goals. Charging in without giving any thought to the end result and how to achieve it, is a sure way to fall flat on your face. Think like a boy scout. Have a realistic plan of attack and a systematic approach for getting where you need to be.

    • Don’t Fight Change

      “When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.”
      Whilst many of us don’t like change, others thrive on it. Either way change is inevitable. The stronger we fight against it, the more time and energy it consumes. Give up the fight. Focus on proactively making positive changes, instead of having change merely thrust upon you. Wherever possible, try to view change as a positive instead of a negative.

    • Get Moving

      “All mankind is divided into three classes: those that are immovable, those that are movable, and those that move.”
      There’s a reason we use the expression, movers and shakers. Movers are the ones who take action, the people who get things done, while the immovable are sitting around scratching their heads wondering how others could possibly be so successful. Which group do you want to belong to?

    • Avoid Busywork

      “Never confuse motion with action.”
      We are always running around doing things. We rush from one meeting or event to the next, sometimes without achieving a great deal. At the end of the day, how much of our busywork are we proud of? How much of that running around improves anyone’s life (including ours) for the better? Make your motion mean something.

    • Give Yourself Permission to Make Mistakes

      “Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.”
      If we fear making mistakes, we become scared to try new things. Fear leaves us nestled in our comfort zone. Staying in your comfort zone rarely leads to greatness. Taking risks and giving yourself permission to make mistakes, will ultimately lead you to whatever your version of success may be.

    • Act Quickly on Opportunities

      “To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions.”
      Opportunities are everywhere. The trick is being quick enough and smart enough to seize them when they arise. Instead of jumping to the conclusion that something won’t work or can’t be done, allow yourself the freedom to ask what if?

    • Continue to Grow

      “Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.”
      We all have vices of some description. The key is to keep them under control or preferably eradicate them entirely. Be kind to those around you, whether they are neighbors, family, co-workers or friends. Never accept that you have finished growing as a person.

    • Keep Going

      “Diligence is the mother of good luck.”
      Have you ever looked at a successful entrepreneur or business person and thought how lucky they are? Most of the time, luck has nothing to do with it. Hard work and sacrifice on the other hand have everything to do with it. Successful people deal with failure. They tackle their demons head on. They pick themselves up and keep going.

    • Know Yourself

      “There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.”
      Understanding ourselves is not easy. Sometimes we just don’t want to see ourselves for who we really are. It’s much easier to hold onto a romanticized version of ourselves or to simply view ourselves through other people’s eyes. Start by being brutally honest with yourself. Follow through with understanding, compassion and acceptance.

    • Don’t Self-Sabotage

      “Who had deceived thee so often as thyself?”
      We spend so much time worrying about other people hurting us, yet fail to comprehend the damage we inflict on ourselves. If you are using negative self-talk, lying to yourself or indulging in addictive behavior you are self-sabotaging. Life can dish up enough challenges without us adding to the mix. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself like you would a best friend.

    • Don’t Give Up

      “Energy and persistence conquer all things.”
      Achieving our goals can be downright exhausting. There will be days when you want to give up. There will be times when your energy levels flatline and you wonder why you bother getting out of bed. Yet you push forward, day after day because you believe in yourself and you have the determination and strength to back up that belief.

    • Wise Up

      “Life’s tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late.”
      Benjamin was definitely onto something with this one. Who hasn’t had the thought – I wish I could know then, what I know now? Unfortunately there is no time machine; there is no going back. The key is to wise up as early as you can to start forging a life of purpose, achievement and happiness.

Change Up Challenge!

Routine. Repetitive. Redundant. Does this sound like your day? Does it feel like the movie Groundhogs Day in your own life? Could you complete your day with your eyes closed? Well, I have been there before. As humans, we look for the path of least resistance. We do not like confrontation, anything hard and constantly want the best of both worlds. So, it makes sense that we often find ourselves doing the same thing day in and day out. We don’t want a curve ball thrown our way and for heavens sake its the end of the world when something comes out of left field and surprises us. Well, I have a challenge for you!

For the next week….

1. Take a new route to work every day

2. Instead of packing a lunch or eating at McDonalds, take a long lunch at least one day and spoil yourself

3. Don’t go home and watch tv and eat a frozen dinner, go out to a Happy Hour and I dare you to introduce yourself to one new person

4. Do something every day that makes you feel awkward. Whether its standing up in front of your co-workers and making a joke or singing Karaoke…feel awkward

5. Go out of your way to help someone. Buy a stranger coffee!

6. Take 5 minutes a day to day dream about your biggest desires

7.  On the last day, write in a journal or a notepad or on your computer about all the experiences you had. Share with us!

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I do not care how far-fetched, silly, out of this world your dream is…It CAN happen. I am saddened at the fact that every day I see 828 elementary students and I ask them, “What is your dream?” and 80% of the responses are “I don’t know.” What happened to our imagination? Why aren’t schools piggy-backing on the energy of a students dreams to motivate learning? What is even worse is that by the time these students hit high school and college, that 80% turns into 99%. We live in a time where everything is at our fingertips and any small desire of a dream is washed away with any hiccup or bump in the road. Well, I have a suggestion to help make your dream a reality!

You may think you have nothing in your life, or you may be blessed and have anything you desire. Either way, you can still benefit from this solution. I have the dream to become a motivational speaker and inspire K-12 and college students believe in themselves. Instead of letting my dream remain a dream I have began to take action. Instead of waiting for an opportunity to fall into my lap, I have used the world around me to create my dream. Now, I may not be getting bookings but I am ready for it when I do! I have written my speeches, I have purchased a presentation board and drew out different activities on its pages. I have even written letters to myself pretending I am someone else who has benefited from my presentation. I have 5 letters ranging from experiences and benefits. One is from a single mother who gave up on the possibility of an education, another from a high school student who is adopted and doesn’t have any self-worth.

So, if you want to be a singer, make a fake microphone and go through the motions as if you were a famous singer on tour. Make your schedule of cities you want to tour to. If you want to be a pilot begin surrounding yourself and making your life look like you imagine it to be.

Every great accomplishment started as a thought. With a little hope it became a dream. With a little faith, the dream became within reach. With a little love, it became a reality.

It is Never Too Late…

Watch this video of Susan Boyle as she tried out at the age of 47 on Britain’s Got Talent. I love this because it is proof that it is never too late to follow your dreams. Sometimes life is about timing. It may just come a little later than what you originally hope for.