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“Do not confuse activity…

“Do not confuse activity with productivity”

I have always struggled with having continual motivation to reach a dream. It wasn’t until I was sitting on the toilet doing some really deep thinking and it hit me…

I realized that its not that I need to stop having HUGE dreams…I just have to have smaller goals between that help me reach that goal. Instead of moving your feet rapidly for a few weeks to get nowhere in comparison to your big dream, make smaller goals where you are accomplishing things, learning and feeling as though you are getting closer to your dream.

Along the way you will run into failure and it is much easier to pick yourself up after a small failure on your journey to a smaller goal. However, it is much easier to give up when you hit a few stumbles when your dream seems unreachable.

Creating momentum is something that will help catipult you to achieving whatever you want. The sense of euphoria of completing a goal and moving onto something bigger and better that brings your BIG goal closer and closer is addicting and very powerful. I always imagine that I have a ball of energy and as I succeed at different things I am depositing currency into the ball of positivity. I feel it growing and growing and growing…Even though I can’t see it, I can feel it and it is a great mental reminder to keep working harder.

Along the way you will also learn from your mistakes, meet the right people, build your network and instead of being inefficient and running off of excitement that won’t last, you are learning the proper way to do it and are more likely to be successful.

“Either you pay the price of discipline, or you pay the price of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons.” -John Assaraf

Either you do what you need to do, you do the hard work, the work nobody else wants to do, or you regret it forever. Either you get serious and follow your dreams, goals, and passions, or you wish away your life regretting decisions. I am not going to sit here and tell you life is short, because I am pretty sure we all know that. It is all up to you to get serious about what you want in life, whether its finding happiness, or being a millionaire, and make it happen.

The biggest fear in life should not be fear itself. The biggest fear in life should be letting life slip through your fingers with out ever challenging yourself, without ever testing and seeing what you are made of, to let your dreams never become reality. The biggest fear should be the realization at the end of your life that you didn’t become what you wanted. Your life could end with the happiness and realization you did what you wanted while you were here, or you can end your life in anxiety, restlessness that you didn’t become what you were capable of.

“Figuring out the “how…

“Figuring out the “how” comes after the vision and the decision. The How will always come after the What, when your Why is big enough.” – John Assaraf

This is why its so important to dream! But, don’t just dream, act. Don’t just believe, plan. Take steps forward towards your goal. But, in order for it to actually happen, you must visualize it, feel it as if it were real, dream up every detail about it. Also, it must have a reason for being. Once you have the idea of what it is and a reason for why it is, the universe will make the how it happens, happen!

Verge of Greatness

“Feeling scared shouldn’t deter us from our path. When your palms get sweaty, legs begin to shake and you are scared of what might happen, all that means is you are on the verge of greatness.” – Brenden Martin

The biggest enemy we have is feeling scared or frightful and discontinuing on our path. Whatever path it may be, you have to continue reaching for it. If everyone quit when they felt scared, nothing great would ever be accomplished. Change the way you see fear as something that should motivate you to move forward, rather than scare you into quitting.

Challenge of the Week

Whenever you feel fear, replace it with confidence. In whatever task you have this week that you begin to feel scared about, change your thoughts and walk confidently forward with only thoughts of success.

“Learning how to concent…

“Learning how to concentrate on the good, rather than dwell on the bad can transform the world around you.” – Brenden Martin

I have noticed that it is very easy to get caught up when things don’t go your way. Once something happens and you tumble, its almost certain that something else goes bad and you trip again. Challenging the way your typically think and process things is difficult. But, if you can concentrate on the good around you rather than dwelling on what is going wrong, you will see a whole new world open around you.

Success or failure?

If we can change the way we think about success and failure, I think we could solve sadness and depression for many in the world. In American society we are taught success is about being rich, famous, huge house and cool cars. We are made to believe it is a destination rather than a journey. We are made to believe that failure is eternal doom, rather than an opportunity to grow and adapt.

I have spoken about failure before so you should all understand how important it is to fail in life. Failure shapes you as a person, gets rid of a big ego, and makes people achieve things in their life they may have never thought possible.

Success is a journey, the road you take, trials and tribulations, ups and downs… You are successful if you do not give up. Thus, the only way you can truly fail is if you stop trying. You may not succeed on the first attempt at something, but if you learn from your mistakes, reflect on your actions and adapt your abilities and continue to try, strive and attempt to accomplish your goal…then you are successful!

TASK: Challenge what you think about “success” and “failure” Change your perception, change your world!

PATIENCE!!! This is a hard one to learn

I really struggle with patience. I am a very busy guy and want to jump into things and get it done. I think I am supposed to learn a lesson in patience as my life right now is forcing me to stay put when all instincts are telling me to close my eyes and run full speed ahead. Living on impulses can be fun and spontaneous but hardly the best decision. I googled “how to learn patience” and this site came up with the best answers. If you are anything like me I encourage you to take a few notes 🙂

Figure Out What Makes You Impatient

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    Try to figure out why you are in such a hurry. We tend to lose our patience when we’re multitasking or when we’re on a tight schedule, expecting the day to pass within (what it seems like…) only a few short minutes of busyness and chaos. If you’re stretching yourself too thin, you should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to an overwhelming situation. Try to spread out your tasks so that you’re doing only one thing at a time, without leaving yourself twiddling your thumbs in eagerness of something to busy yourself with. Delegateresponsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.

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    Pinpoint the triggers that often influence you to lose your patience. Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if you feel anxious, worried, or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. To reduce the frequency of impatience, it helps to be aware of it. Which events, people, phrases or circumstances always seem to influence you lose your cool? Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration. At the core of most triggers is a reality that we have a hard time accepting. What are those realities for you?

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    Look for patterns. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationshipor circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. Figure that out, and you can then think logically about the problem issue and decide whether or not your impatience is warranted or helpful. It usually isn’t, but when it is you can then figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it.

Write it Down

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    Keep a journal. For one to two weeks, whenever you get that rushed feeling and the sense of impatience, write down whatever it is that feeling is associated with (Example: July 1 – astronomy class). Make sure that you take notes consistently and consecutively each time the feeling occurs. You will notice that you are more aware of (and subsequently more prepared for) the feeling of impatience. You will also be able to observe the sense of impatience objectively and which events give rise to it. You may come to the conclusion that circumstances surrounding the feeling are not causing you angst – the feeling itself is. In these ways, you will be able to better control impatience when it besets you.

Overcoming Impatience

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    Overcome bouts of impatience. In the long run, developing patience requires a change in your attitude about life, but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient. Take a few deep breaths and just try to clear your mind. Concentrate on breathingand you’ll be able to get your bearings.

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    Let go if you can’t do anything about the impatience trigger. If there isn’t anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done, yes, but it’s possible, and it’s the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you – waiting to hear back after a job interview, for instance – but you should be able to alleviate impatience that’s caused by issues of less consequence (i.e. waiting in line at the grocery store). If you make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, you’ll gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.

See the Big Picture

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    Remind yourself that things take time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don’t like to waste time. However, some things just can’t be rushed. Think about your happiest memories. Chances are, they were instances when your patience paid off, like when you worked steadily toward a goal that wasn’t immediately gratifying, or took a little extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one. Would you have those memories if you had been impatient? Probably not. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you’re impatient, you’re more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don’t come right away.

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    Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.

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    Always remember that you will eventually get what you want. (This requires maturity and patience to understand and accept!) If you work hard at something, this may be the truth, but most of the time you have to be patient to get what you want. For others, this may come as easy, but the only thing that matters is that you know how to occupy yourself, even in the dead of times. Just remember, patience is a mental skill that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your life.

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    Always have a positive outlook in life. Being always positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

Education Missing the Point

Despite how hard those in education try to get our kids to be successful, they often miss the point….

 

Go Out And FAIL!

Yeah, it may seem strange to fail. But we need failure in order to achieve success. There has never been a successful person who has never failed at least once. The important part here is that this means we have to take action. When I say to chase your dreams, go out and do it. Set a plan. Sit down and set goals that are measurable, achieveable and tangible. Make a plan to achieve those goals and a timeline. Now, once you have that, go out and you will notice that every choice you make is geared around achieving those goals. Your goals become magnets and you start working towards them. The closer you get, the stronger the momentum and the faster you will see results. Be disciplined in your steps or else you will not see results. Most people see failure as an awful, horrible thing. BUT IT ISN”T! Failure allows you to stop, learn, re-strategize and re-launch. You will become more efficient and effective in achieving your goals. My football coaches always told me, if you are going to mess up, mess up 110%. If you are going to fail, fail 110%. Worse case scenario, you will learn and find a new way to succeed.