We have all, at some point in our life, been afraid of something. Whether it is the boogeyman, a new job, a move, or coming face-to-face with your fear of heights, we have all experienced the undesirable feelings of fear. A feeling that speeds through every inch of your body and consumes your thoughts and alters your reality. As human nature is to go along the path of least resistance, it is no surprise that we often run away from our fears.
But what really happens when we run away? We do not grow stronger, we miss out on opportunities for growth and strength and most of all, fun. Growing up I often confused fear for excitement and I missed out on a lot of opportunities. So, here is my challenge to help you determine if something is actually dangerous and shouldn’t be attempted or if you should confirm the feeling is actually excitement and not fear…
1) Ask yourself if this activity will physically harm you body, mind or soul?
2) Are you afraid of an actual, physical thing, or a thought or idea? (scared of the thought of dying by jumping out of a plane, or are you scared of the plane)
3) What is the worst that could happen if you go through with it, and if you don’t go through with it?
4) Take control of your thoughts and change your attitude about it. Rather than being fearful, go out and dominate your fear better than anyone else. I was going to jump out of an airplane once and I was having a meltdown and a psychologist told me to change my fear into thoughts of being the best jumper out of airplanes…EVER! And it worked! My fears melted away as I was determined to jump out of that airplane like it was something I had done a million times.
Attitude plays such a big role in our lives. It is the largest factor in determining whether or not you will live a life of happiness and excitement, or fear and sadness. The next time you are feeling fearful, ask yourself those 3 questions and most importantly…change your attitude about it.
Life can be hard. At times, it can feel down right impossible. It’s at these moments we struggle to remain optimistic and positive so I have an easy cure. If we all spend 5 minutes a day not worrying about the stresses of life but DREAMING about your desires, you will notice a difference in your overall morale. We need to escape at times and as we get older, we get busier. We lose site of things that make us happy and slowly load our plates with more boring stuff. In Elementary we get recess and suddenly its taken away in Middle School. When you graduate from college you lose your summers off, no recess, a lunch if you are lucky, you don’t have time for intramurals, you barely have enough time to serve the basic human functions of eating and bathing. But, escaping and dreaming about your deepest desires, vacations, new car, time with that special someone can be done anytime and anywhere. Bring back your imagination and dream a little. Don’t be scared to think differently. Like my previous post, life is all about perception…Change the way you think, and change your world!
If there is one lesson I am learning as I grow up and begin working with people it is this…No matter what you do, you won’t please them all. Not everyone is going to like you. You can either a) let it ruin your day or, b) let it push you to be better. It would be a whole lot easier to throw up the white flag and give up. But, it is a lot more courageous to smile, keep chugging a long and never let anyone get in your way of your success. The only person that can keep you from being successful is yourself. You will win some and you will lose some, but just because you lose doesn’t mean you are defeated. It means your growing stronger. Strength and wisdom aren’t developed over time. They are developed through struggles, experiences and failures. So, as my mother used to say, “You are going to get back on that horse and you’re gonna have fun damnit!”