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“Do not confuse activity…

“Do not confuse activity with productivity”

I have always struggled with having continual motivation to reach a dream. It wasn’t until I was sitting on the toilet doing some really deep thinking and it hit me…

I realized that its not that I need to stop having HUGE dreams…I just have to have smaller goals between that help me reach that goal. Instead of moving your feet rapidly for a few weeks to get nowhere in comparison to your big dream, make smaller goals where you are accomplishing things, learning and feeling as though you are getting closer to your dream.

Along the way you will run into failure and it is much easier to pick yourself up after a small failure on your journey to a smaller goal. However, it is much easier to give up when you hit a few stumbles when your dream seems unreachable.

Creating momentum is something that will help catipult you to achieving whatever you want. The sense of euphoria of completing a goal and moving onto something bigger and better that brings your BIG goal closer and closer is addicting and very powerful. I always imagine that I have a ball of energy and as I succeed at different things I am depositing currency into the ball of positivity. I feel it growing and growing and growing…Even though I can’t see it, I can feel it and it is a great mental reminder to keep working harder.

Along the way you will also learn from your mistakes, meet the right people, build your network and instead of being inefficient and running off of excitement that won’t last, you are learning the proper way to do it and are more likely to be successful.

“Either you pay the price of discipline, or you pay the price of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons.” -John Assaraf

Either you do what you need to do, you do the hard work, the work nobody else wants to do, or you regret it forever. Either you get serious and follow your dreams, goals, and passions, or you wish away your life regretting decisions. I am not going to sit here and tell you life is short, because I am pretty sure we all know that. It is all up to you to get serious about what you want in life, whether its finding happiness, or being a millionaire, and make it happen.

The biggest fear in life should not be fear itself. The biggest fear in life should be letting life slip through your fingers with out ever challenging yourself, without ever testing and seeing what you are made of, to let your dreams never become reality. The biggest fear should be the realization at the end of your life that you didn’t become what you wanted. Your life could end with the happiness and realization you did what you wanted while you were here, or you can end your life in anxiety, restlessness that you didn’t become what you were capable of.

My Dream

My dream is that everyone in this world can feel happiness. That they can realize their self-worth, conquer there self and fulfill their potential. My dream is that this book will inspire, motivate and create a social movement bringing together complete strangers and creating bonds that will never be broken. My dream is that families become stronger, friendships become tighter and relationships last forever. My dream is that people open their minds, hearts and souls to the idea of change and accept it with its bringing’s. My dream is that you don’t waste your time on this planet and live every second as if it were on purpose. 

Tools

I do not care how far-fetched, silly, out of this world your dream is…It CAN happen. I am saddened at the fact that every day I see 828 elementary students and I ask them, “What is your dream?” and 80% of the responses are “I don’t know.” What happened to our imagination? Why aren’t schools piggy-backing on the energy of a students dreams to motivate learning? What is even worse is that by the time these students hit high school and college, that 80% turns into 99%. We live in a time where everything is at our fingertips and any small desire of a dream is washed away with any hiccup or bump in the road. Well, I have a suggestion to help make your dream a reality!

You may think you have nothing in your life, or you may be blessed and have anything you desire. Either way, you can still benefit from this solution. I have the dream to become a motivational speaker and inspire K-12 and college students believe in themselves. Instead of letting my dream remain a dream I have began to take action. Instead of waiting for an opportunity to fall into my lap, I have used the world around me to create my dream. Now, I may not be getting bookings but I am ready for it when I do! I have written my speeches, I have purchased a presentation board and drew out different activities on its pages. I have even written letters to myself pretending I am someone else who has benefited from my presentation. I have 5 letters ranging from experiences and benefits. One is from a single mother who gave up on the possibility of an education, another from a high school student who is adopted and doesn’t have any self-worth.

So, if you want to be a singer, make a fake microphone and go through the motions as if you were a famous singer on tour. Make your schedule of cities you want to tour to. If you want to be a pilot begin surrounding yourself and making your life look like you imagine it to be.

Every great accomplishment started as a thought. With a little hope it became a dream. With a little faith, the dream became within reach. With a little love, it became a reality.

PATIENCE!!! This is a hard one to learn

I really struggle with patience. I am a very busy guy and want to jump into things and get it done. I think I am supposed to learn a lesson in patience as my life right now is forcing me to stay put when all instincts are telling me to close my eyes and run full speed ahead. Living on impulses can be fun and spontaneous but hardly the best decision. I googled “how to learn patience” and this site came up with the best answers. If you are anything like me I encourage you to take a few notes 🙂

Figure Out What Makes You Impatient

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    Try to figure out why you are in such a hurry. We tend to lose our patience when we’re multitasking or when we’re on a tight schedule, expecting the day to pass within (what it seems like…) only a few short minutes of busyness and chaos. If you’re stretching yourself too thin, you should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to an overwhelming situation. Try to spread out your tasks so that you’re doing only one thing at a time, without leaving yourself twiddling your thumbs in eagerness of something to busy yourself with. Delegateresponsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.

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    Pinpoint the triggers that often influence you to lose your patience. Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if you feel anxious, worried, or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. To reduce the frequency of impatience, it helps to be aware of it. Which events, people, phrases or circumstances always seem to influence you lose your cool? Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration. At the core of most triggers is a reality that we have a hard time accepting. What are those realities for you?

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    Look for patterns. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationshipor circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. Figure that out, and you can then think logically about the problem issue and decide whether or not your impatience is warranted or helpful. It usually isn’t, but when it is you can then figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it.

Write it Down

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    Keep a journal. For one to two weeks, whenever you get that rushed feeling and the sense of impatience, write down whatever it is that feeling is associated with (Example: July 1 – astronomy class). Make sure that you take notes consistently and consecutively each time the feeling occurs. You will notice that you are more aware of (and subsequently more prepared for) the feeling of impatience. You will also be able to observe the sense of impatience objectively and which events give rise to it. You may come to the conclusion that circumstances surrounding the feeling are not causing you angst – the feeling itself is. In these ways, you will be able to better control impatience when it besets you.

Overcoming Impatience

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    Overcome bouts of impatience. In the long run, developing patience requires a change in your attitude about life, but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient. Take a few deep breaths and just try to clear your mind. Concentrate on breathingand you’ll be able to get your bearings.

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    Let go if you can’t do anything about the impatience trigger. If there isn’t anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done, yes, but it’s possible, and it’s the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you – waiting to hear back after a job interview, for instance – but you should be able to alleviate impatience that’s caused by issues of less consequence (i.e. waiting in line at the grocery store). If you make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, you’ll gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.

See the Big Picture

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    Remind yourself that things take time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don’t like to waste time. However, some things just can’t be rushed. Think about your happiest memories. Chances are, they were instances when your patience paid off, like when you worked steadily toward a goal that wasn’t immediately gratifying, or took a little extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one. Would you have those memories if you had been impatient? Probably not. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you’re impatient, you’re more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don’t come right away.

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    Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.

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    Always remember that you will eventually get what you want. (This requires maturity and patience to understand and accept!) If you work hard at something, this may be the truth, but most of the time you have to be patient to get what you want. For others, this may come as easy, but the only thing that matters is that you know how to occupy yourself, even in the dead of times. Just remember, patience is a mental skill that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your life.

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    Always have a positive outlook in life. Being always positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.