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Fear and Excitement

We have all, at some point in our life, been afraid of something. Whether it is the boogeyman, a new job, a move, or coming face-to-face with your fear of heights, we have all experienced the undesirable feelings of fear. A feeling that speeds through every inch of your body and consumes your thoughts and alters your reality. As human nature is to go along the path of least resistance, it is no surprise that we often run away from our fears.

But what really happens when we run away? We do not grow stronger, we miss out on opportunities for growth and strength and most of all, fun. Growing up I often confused fear for excitement and I missed out on a lot of opportunities. So, here is my challenge to help you determine if something is actually dangerous and shouldn’t be attempted or if you should confirm the feeling is actually excitement and not fear…

1) Ask yourself if  this activity will physically harm you body, mind or soul?

2) Are you afraid of an actual, physical thing, or a thought or idea? (scared of the thought of dying by jumping out of a plane, or are you scared of the plane)

3) What is the worst that could happen if you go through with it, and if you don’t go through with it?

4) Take control of your thoughts and change your attitude about it. Rather than being fearful, go out and dominate your fear better than anyone else. I was going to jump out of an airplane once and I was having a meltdown and a psychologist told me to change my fear into thoughts of being the best jumper out of airplanes…EVER! And it worked! My fears melted away as I was determined to jump out of that airplane like it was something I had done a million times.

Attitude plays such a big role in our lives. It is the largest factor in determining whether or not you will live a life of happiness and excitement, or fear and sadness. The next time you are feeling fearful, ask yourself those 3 questions and most importantly…change your attitude about it.

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5 Closest Friends

I once heard someone tell me that I am a compilation of the 5 people I hang out with the most. Whether you like it or not, you become who you hang out with. I cannot tell you how many times I have had millionaires tell me, “If you want to be rich, hang out with rich people.” You cannot help but be influenced slightly by those you are around. We are a very impressionable species that is always looking for the path of least resistance. It is easier to follow someone rather than make your own way. So, I challenge you to reconsider who your friends are and start making your own path. You will be surprised at the people you meet and who become your friends and who begins to drift away. It doesn’t mean your old friends are bad, but it is important to be able to grow and change and sometimes that means leaving some friends behind who don’t have the same goals. You are only doing a disservice to yourself if you don’t allow yourself to be challenged and prevent yourself from developing more positive relationships. Again, life is all about relationships. It’s your choice who you decide to let into your life which has a direct impact on who you become.

Love

Love According to Children…

“Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way.”

“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth.”

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.”

“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”

“Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don’t yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings.”

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”

“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”

“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”

“When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you’re scared they won’t love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more.”

“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day.”

“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”

“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.”

“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.”

“Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken.”

“Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.”

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”

“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”  

Love According to the Bible…

1 Corinthians 13

1 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Love According to the Dictionary…

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noun

1.

a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2.

a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3.

sexual passion or desire.
4.

a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5.

(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
Love…
So…what is love?  I could go on for hours talking about love but I’ll keep it simple. It can be everywhere and everything, a feeling, an action, an emotion…But here is the funny thing…At the core of every action, is love. We all pursue it, write songs about it, make movies to tell about it. A father works long hours in grueling jobs because he loves his family, a young boy carefully creates a Valentine for his crush, a young man helps a stranger cross the street, we are all driven by love, for love. As girlie as it may sound, its the reason we are here and the reason why we live the lives we do. I’ve learned a few things in my short 25 years and its this…Love life, love what you do, find what you are passionate about and love every second you have. Love those around you and cherish your relationships, love the good times, love the bad times…If you look closely, you will see that love truly is all around.

Life is About Relationships

There are very few people in this world who are happiest when they are alone. It is human nature to desire the affection and company of other humans. We are pack animals in the sense that we find strength in numbers. We unconsciously fall into certain roles that our society needs and become a part of something bigger than we are. As humans, we all have the basic desires of food, water, air but most importantly love. “To love and be loved is to feel the sun on both sides.” Everyone wants to fit in and be good at something. We all have special talents and gifts that we were born with and often times we struggle to figure out how we can use those to benefit ourselves and those around us. Our western society makes us believe that life should be all about ME and therefore we produce millionaires who spend their money of materialistic items. This is going against our instinctual desires to develop relationships with those around us and contribute to the community we are a part of. That is why it is no longer shocking to see celebrities heavily prescribed to anti-depressants. Imagine if all of the millionaires and billionaires did more to help those who are struggling! It is impossible to not be happy when you bring happiness to others. Marianne Moore once said, “The heart that gives, gathers.” I do not understand why some think happiness is so hard to find. It’s actually pretty simple. But, to get to my point…Life isn’t about money, houses, cars etc. He who is the wealthiest is not he who has the most money, but he who makes the most out of what he has. Billionaire investor, Warren Buffet, has been quoted as saying that if he had the chance to go back in life and develop the relationships with his family and friends he would do it in a heartbeat even if it meant he had never earned a penny. The best and easiest way to develop a relationship is by spending time with someone. The smallest of acts can often seem unimportant to you, however they can mean the world to someone else.

If Life Is A Game…These Are The Rules

An excerpt from If Life is a Game…These are the Rules by Dr. Chérie Carter Scott, Ph.D.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called “life.” Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as part of your curriculum.
Why are you here? What is your purpose? Humans have sought to discover the meaning of life for a very long time. What we and our ancestors have overlooked, however, in the course of this endless search, is that there is no one answer. The meaning of life is different for every individual.
Each person has his or her own purpose and distinct path, unique and separate from anyone else’s. As you travel your life path, you will be presented with numerous lessons that you will need to learn in order to fulfill that purpose. The lessons you are presented with are specific to you; learning these lessons is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life.
Once you have learned the basic lessons taught to you by your own body, you are ready for a more advanced teacher: the universe. You will be presented with lessons in every circumstance that surfaces in your life. When you experience pain, you learn a lesson. When you feel joy, you learn a different lesson. For every action or event, there is an accompanying lesson that must be learned.
As you travel through your lifetime, you may encounter challenging lessons that others don’t have to face, while others spend years struggling with challenges that you don’t need to deal with. You may never know why you are blessed with a wonderful marriage, while your friends suffer through bitter arguments and painful divorces, just as you cannot be sure why you struggle financially while your peers enjoy abundance. The only thing you can count on for certain is that you will be presented with all the lessons that you specifically need to learn; whether you choose to learn them or not is entirely up to you.
The challenge of Rule Two, therefore, is to align yourself with your own unique path by learning your individual lessons. This is one of the most difficult challenges you will face in your lifetime, as sometimes your path will lead you into a life that is radically different from others. Don’t compare your path to those around you and focus on the disparity between their lessons and yours. You need to remember that you will only be faced with lessons that you are capable of learning and are specific to your own growth.
If you are able to rise to this challenge, you can unravel the mystery of your purpose and actually live it. You cease being a victim of fate or circumstance and become empowered – life no longer just “happens to you.” When you are working toward fulfilling your true purpose, you discover astonishing gifts within yourself that you may have never known you have. This process may not be easy, but the rewards are well worth the struggle.

Promisary Note

This was passed onto me and I truly believe that if you repeat this every night and really grasp and understand what each line means, that you will become a better person.

The importance of constantly repeating this and continuing to come back to this throughout each day will truly help in guiding you to be a better person. This promise breaks it down to make it seem pretty easy, however you will see that it is often very difficult. By constantly reading it and keeping it on the top of your mind, the more likely you are to succeed.

I Promise Myself By Christian D. Larsen

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.